Getting Professional Advice
and
Doing Business are two different entities
(though both co exist most of the times)
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Suppose
I go to a Civil Engineer
Getting Professional Advice –> The Plan
Doing Business –> The Payment
Now
I need to ask the Payment Upfront
Assume He says Rs 10000.
I have the following Options
1.
I pay that
2.
I find it costly and hence come back
3.
I ask him whether he can reduce it to Rs 9000
and If he agree -> 1. I pay that
and if he does not agree –> 2. I come back
There ends the business part
The Negotiations end with the business part itself
I should not portray my negotiation skills over the next part of Professional Advice
That is
When he gives a plan, I just need to follow it
I should not ask why a pillar is here or whether the pillar can be moved
The sort of “It is my House. I have the full right to change the pillar location or I have the full right to not have a pillar” attitude makes sure that the house will collapse
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Same way
When a Civil Engineer Comes to a doctor, there is both business and professional advice parts
The doctor charges Rs 1000 as consultation Fees. The Civil Engineer can either Pay or Go Back or Ask for Concession.
The negotiation has to end at that time
When doctor says Take 4 tablets
He has to take four tablets
He cannot alter the tablets or reduce or stop thinking that “it is my body. I have the right to question. I have the right to change” Such attitude will ensure increased morbidity and mortality
You need to learn to know where to negotiate and where to follow when you are interacting with professionals
The First Advice Which the doctor says to you is what is best for you
IF you are going to given an alternative and ask whether it can be followed,
The doctor may say yes –> If that is right
The doctor may say no –> if that is wrong
But
What is the most important point
Is that
Even if your option is inferior to the one which doctor said in first instance (which would be the case most of the time) The doctor can only say YES if that is not wrong
In the end
Because of your “Cashewnut” attitude, You end of with an inferior option
So Decide what you want when you are seeking professional advice
Do you want “the Best Advice”
or
Do you want “EgoMassage”
Both cannot co exist in most, if not all, of the scenario.
Are you just shocked on reading this. Then you are in Shock Phase
Do you think this is wrong. That is Denial
Do you get angry that I am denying your right over your body. That is Anger
Do you say that “We need to look at an middle path.” “It is not that patient has to be mum” blah blah. That is bargaining phase
Have you realized what was your earliest mistake and now decided to change
Well that is acceptance phase of Kübler-Ross model
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